Heal up. Matched grip. Sequence and click as you imagined. Not sure what you mean regarding feeling the space between beats but the space between beats is the essence. I find playing slow easier and more expressive. Pulling Punches, when you make a decision to place the first snare beat between the one and two it calls for commitment in terms of arrangement. That push drives the track and with the guitars and brass complimenting it works well. If I imagine the snare on beat 2 the track would fall rather flat.